Janet was tired of being afraid. She may not have made the best choices in her life, but she was no longer going to allow fear to dictate her future. The minute Roger walked through that door, she was going to do it. She would tell him – she’s leaving.
My friend Ben Yoskovitz over at Instigator Blog is running a great series on goal setting.
It’s one of those topics you hear a lot about, but that can often be confusing. Ben and the contributors to the group blog project are really doing a great job of providing some wonderful food for thought. I’m actually going to be talking about goals in next week’s episode of The Creative Venture, but here’s the main advice I give to those asking about goal setting:
Don’t worry so much about how to do it, just do it.
There are so many methods and “best ways” offered around goal setting, when what really works best, is what works for you. About the only universal thing I recommend is writing them down in some form or fashion.
One of my favorite books on the subject is “Write It Down Make It Happen” by Henriette Anne Klauser. The simple guidelines and different approaches really speak to a wide variety of people.
Be sure to check out next week’s podcast for more. In the mean time, visit the Post-Thanksgiving Goal Writing Project over on Ben’s blog, and join in with your own goals.
There are many advantages to being a work-at-home parent. At the top of the list are freedom, and being there for your kids. But one often overlooked benefit is that you’re teaching your kids how to succeed – by example.
The majority of the folks I know who work from home, are following their dreams and doing what they love. So what does that teach your kids?
Questions are a powerful tool – when you ask the right ones. When you’re working through making the leap to working from home, asking the right questions is key. We’ve all heard the standard reporter questions: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How. Notice that “how” is usually last? To me, it’s fitting – especially when thinking and planning your business. Because “how” is not only the least empowering, it can actually be a perfect method for self-sabotage. When you are able to answer the others, the how will take care of itself.
Let’s Start with the Easy Ones
That would be you.
From home – otherwise, I believe you’re in the wrong place.
Now the Power Questions
Putting a time on something changes it from a dream to a goal. Knowing “when” you want things to happen is important when planning your business. Set clear dates for when you want to hit certain targets.
Knowing exactly what you want is extremely powerful. The sharper the target, the better chance to have to hit it. What are you passionate about? What are your talents and gifts? What value will you offer? Knowing “what” is integral to your success, and so is…
Knowing why you want the things you want will make their achievement so much easier. Why are you going into business for yourself? That’s a compelling question. To make money, be free, change the world? The way you answer the “why” questions will set the tone for many future decisions.
Which Brings Us to How…
In my experience, both in my own ventures and with those I’ve worked with, “how” is a whiney question. “How can I possibly work from home?” “How will I pay the bills?” “How will I find clients?”
You also can’t answer it. Why? Because you don’t have all the information needed to answer it correctly. There are things that will happen and come your way that you don’t know about. So asking how, without the ability to predict the future, is fruitless.
(One caveat – I’m talking specifically about pursuing your work from home business, here. If someone tells you that you can make a million dollars in a week by working with them, or your buddy happens on a plasma TV that he’s selling you for 100 bucks – I’d be asking “how.” A big “how.”)
So stop worrying about how, and focus on the other questions. When you are able to clearly answer the other questions, the how will take care of itself. I can almost guarantee that, because I’ve yet to see it not happen. Knowing the answers to the power questions tend to make doors open up, and opportunities flow in. Worrying about the “how,” only stifles that flow.
How does it stifle the flow? Don’t care? Good!
The venerable Starbucker has a brilliant post over at his Ramblings From a Glass Half Full blog entitled 5 Quick Tips To Keep The Glass Half-Full. Including such great advice as “Get off of the ground, but stay out of the clouds” and “Open mind, open skies,” these tips really provide a perfect framework for developing the right focus for true success.
Someone once told me that optimism is over-rated, I quickly countered with “so is success, but that doesn’t stop folks from striving for it.” When you combine critical thinking with an optimistic outlook you have a powerful tool for achieving your goals.