“If that is OK, please give me absolutely no sign. OK, deal. In gratitude, I present you this offering of cookies and milk. If you want me to eat them for you, give me no sign. Thy will be done.” – Homer Simpson
I am always in awe at how the universe works. If you are looking for a sign, you’ll find it. That’s just the way things work. Call it coincidence, happy accidents, synchronicity, or whatever – it doesn’t really matter. The point is that when you are focused on finding an answer, things will start pointing the way.
I have consistently seen the power of synchronicity. You don’t have to be spiritual or even spiritual-leaning to grasp it. Whether you view it as a sign from God, the Universe, your Higher Self, or a psychological connecting of patterns to manifest your subconscious desires, it just works.
I’m not big on the “how,” in most things I do. Some things I want to know all the answers about, but on most, not so much. When you are looking to start a business, or follow your dream, there are much more important questions than how. What, when, and why, come to mind. Wasting time on the how just breeds indecision. The how will come, once you know the answers to the other questions.
Which Brings Us Back To Synchronicity…
I know, this may sound all weird and New-Agey to you. That’s fine, I’ll give you that. I don’t expect you to take my word for it – actually I severely hope you don’t. You should never take anyone’s word for anything. Try it yourself and see if it works for you.
Get some clarity on what it is you want to know, such as:
- What do I want to do with my life?
- How can I make a living from something I love to do?
- How can I best be of service to others?
- How can I connect with my kids?
- Arrested Development was canceled and The Simple Life was renewed? Come on! (Okay that’s not really a question.)
The goal is to have a very clear idea of what you are looking for (and I really would like to know about that last one). Then just ask. Ask it out loud, to yourself, or write it down.
Then watch for the answer. Listen for an inner voice or wait for a gut feeling. It may be an obvious thing, or it may be subtle. The key is to be consciously aware of looking for your answer, and being open to accept it. It works. I’ve seen it happen consistently in my own life and in the lives of lots of others.
Ultimately it’s about getting clear on what you want, and looking for input and pointers that help gain that clarity. You don’t have to have any lofty beliefs in order to gain direction.
You believe in you don’t you? Isn’t that enough…?
Yes, yes, yes! You nailed it. Don’t focus on the “how” but the “what.” As a past life coach, I suggested to those who weren’t sure of the “what,” to go backwards and look at what they didn’t want. That can provide clues for actual preferences. Then claim your “what!”
“Then wait for the answer.” It really is that simple! It’s kinda like giving the waitress the order, trusting that we don’t have to figure out how the meal will arrive.
When a sign shows up, follow it even if it doesn’t make logical sense at the time. Walk through that open door, and another one will present itself down the road.
Julia Cameron says this in her book, The Artist’s Way: “We like to pretend it is hard to follow our heart’s dreams. The truth is, it is difficult to avoid walking through the many doors that will open . . . The Universe is prodigal in its support. We are miserly in what we accept.”
Debbie – I love that quote from Julia Cameron. It’s true we spend more time fighting ourselves than anything else. It could stem from a fear of failure, not feeling worthy, or just a need to be “perfect.” But if we know the right questions to ask, and are willing to listen to the answers, it all begins to become clear.
I think there’s a biggie hidden in your post: “Ultimately it’s about getting clear on what you want…”
I think that’s where a lot of us (including myself) fall down quite a lot.
Know what you want, with clarity. No room for fuzziness!
I agree, Steve. Once you get that clarity, the fog seems to clear, and opportunities seem to come out of the woodwork.
The difficulty is in gaining that clarity, as you mentioned. But starting from a general idea is a good place to begin. As you move forward, things will become clearer.
I have experienced so many (signs) lately.Is this part of spiritual growth. when one is in sync. and clear about what they desire.And then asks for it. Then it seems as in the form of coinendence,It will be given,If one is open to it?