Sometimes life throws you a piss-filled water balloon, and you’re wearing cactus gloves.
During the 2004 season the Carolina Panthers, with high hopes for another Superbowl shot, were riddled with injuries. Instead of a Superbowl run, they had a 1-7 start.
With their starters benched, the second, third, and sometimes, fourth and fifth stringers had to step up. Coach John Fox had an important message for the team:
Nobody is going to come save you.
Fox’s Zen-like “It is what it is” approach points out a reality of life — it’s all up to you.
They came back to win 6 of their last 8 games, just missing the playoffs.
With a Little Help from Your Friends
Having support and having a crutch is not the same thing.
The support of family and friends is crucial, especially during setbacks. But expecting those same folks to rescue you, or to get you out of a spot, is the quickest way to lose that support.
Success starts and ends with you.
Momentum as a Weapon
There is a monumental difference between a setback and a failure:
- A setback is one of those inevitabilities of life, when things don’t go according to plan.
- A failure is when you give up, or don’t try, when you still want to reach your goal.
You can’t have successes without setbacks, just like you can’t have good without evil, or light without dark.
They are part of the same thing — one can’t exist without the other.
The only way to overcome a setback is to get up, brush the dirt off your vest or put on your big girl panties (or both), and begin moving forward. Once you have momentum, it gets easier — because momentum is the best weapon against the setbacks.
Accepting the setbacks, learning from mistakes, and getting back on track makes you the hero of your own story.
It’s how you go on.
It’s how you save yourself.