I find it interesting the range of answers I receive when I ask what different people consider to be â€œThe Good Life.â€ When talking to folks that work from home or are considering it, I get very different answers than when I ask people working the corporate ladder. The first group tends to value life as a whole, where their career pursuits mesh well with family, friends, travel, and life experiences.
We all have to define for ourselves what we consider to be the Good Life. Money, fame, and prestige may be part of that, but if we look deeper, itâ€™s rarely the foundation.
An exercise I find useful for getting to your real desires is what I call the â€œWhat For…â€ technique. Ask someone (or have someone ask you) what they want out of life, and when they give an answer ask, â€œWhat for?â€ When they answer, ask it again, and again. Eventually we get to the heart of their longing. So when they say â€œI want to make lots of money,â€ ask â€œWhat for?â€ When they say â€œto buy stuff,â€ again ask â€œWhat For?â€ Carrying this to its eventual conclusion, we end up with their desire to control their own life, and be appreciated. Sometimes itâ€™s a quick trip, other times meandering. But this is a good way to determine what youâ€™re really looking for.
Some of us have a clear picture of the Good Life, and others not so much. More often, our picture is actually our parentsâ€™ picture, or our friendsâ€™ picture, or Budweiserâ€™s picture, or People magazineâ€™s picture. In order to find true satisfaction, we all have to find our own definition, not one thatâ€™s dictated to us.
Spend some time imagining what your perfect day would be like. What would you be doing? How would you spend your time? Then ask â€œWhat For?â€ to find the core of those things that make up your perfect day, and your perfect life. Once you have that basis of what you truly want out of life, you have a strong foundation on which to build the Good Life.